Young Parents and Our Health

When I hear the word healthy three things show up in my head: physical health, mental health, and spiritual health. To me those three things are most important when it comes to health.  It’s a state of well being that needs our attentiveness at all times! Taking care of ourselves is very important and should always be made a priority.

When it comes to physical health some things that help in that area are exercising, getting 8 hours of well rested sleep, and eating the right kind of foods! Then there’s mental health, something we could all use a little help in! Some negative things that can effect your mental health are stress, depression, anger, sadness, etc…

We all struggle with some type of emotion that effects us in a bad way and there’s definitely ways to cope with this by finding an outlet, or some type of stress reliever. The last one out of the three is your spiritual health! Now this doesn’t just have to be religious it could mean being at peace within yourself and meditating off of that. For me my meditation is praying it helps me feel connected and at peace. In my life especially in the past couple of months I struggled with all of these. I have a whole new appreciation of being healthy, because it’s very important to take care of yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually.You only have one body so why not care for it and appreciate it!!! 🙂

Young Parents: You’re Stronger Than You Think!

The last 6 months have been incredible! I’ve learned so many things about myself, and other people my age who are parents. I feel like I can say in confidence that age doesn’t make you a good parent, but love for your child does. When I started this adventure, of being a young parent ambassador, I was nervous about talking to people. I didn’t think my experience would make a difference and that no one would listen to what I had to say. It’s a taboo to have a child young, so all I could think was who is going to actually care about what I have to say.

I’ve come to realize that I am a stronger person than I give myself credit for. Before having my lovely daughter, I would just go to school and live a regular teenage life. I never really felt challenged and when I did it never felt really important. I didn’t know if I had the strength of character to deal with any “real” issues. Now I feel like I’m dealing with them every day, and each experience leaves me a little stronger and wiser.

I’ve also learned that other young parents feel the same way I do. It can be scary taking care of a baby! They rely on you for everything, and you love them so much that try you’re hardest. I feel like many young parents, also are stronger than they think. I know the media gives young parents a bad rep, and TV shows like “16 and Pregnant” do very little to offer what a real teenage mother has to go through daily. I feel like without real examples of what you parents have to deal with we don’t know really have an idea what we are capable of dealing with. I think we Young Ambassadors are possibly thing to a positive image for young parents. We are just like everyone else, and if we can do it, we can help others feel confident enough to do it too. Every day presents new challenges and I still struggle sometimes, but overall I am happy I have a community I can rely on. That’s what gets me through the tough times.

Being a Parent at a Young Age

I feel that it is important for current young parents to have some sort of leader(s) to look up to and help guide them through their new journey. It can be overwhelming to become a parent at a young age! Many do not know what to do or who to turn to for help. Children are a lot of work and responsibility, and while the reward greatly outweighs the hard work necessary, at times you can feel hopeless. I feel that we young parents with experience, even though our experience may not be perfect, should do what we can to help.

I know what it’s like to have my baby wake up in the middle of the night, screaming in tears, and I don’t know what to do to help. I was scared, and worried she was in some sort of pain. In my grogginess, it took me longer than normal to realize she was just hungry and wanted to know I was there. After a few minutes of breastfeeding, we were both off to sleep. I’m sure I’m not the only one with a similar story, and I’m sure many other young parents would love to share their stories.

Even if there is no defined leader, coming together as a group, I’m confident we can create a nurturing environment for our children to group up in. We just need to engage on another, listen to each other, and help each other out.

A Young Mommy’s Tips for Positive Parenting

Hi, it’s Cora-Lee once again! Just a quick reminder I have a daughter that is 9 months (Sophia), and a stepson (Nicholas) that is 5 years old. My husband and I’ve been looking for ways to project positive discipline to our oldest. He’s around the age that he can definitely comprehend what’s right from wrong, but will test us here and there! It’s a struggle at times! So as parents we both knew that we had to set boundaries and create structure, because kids do need structure.

Now when we grew up we were disciplined the old fashion way which was physical. After talking about how we wanted to do punishments we decided we wanted to change the cycle and not repeat what our parents did. The type of effect that it had on us growing up was negative. I struggled with heavy depression, and aggression. I also battled with wondering if it was love my mother was doing it out of, or was it because she was upset with her personal life, and would take it out on me. Point is I just knew I never wanted to take the chance with my children, and it’d turn into me doing it out of my own frustration.

We researched and found some tips that we thought suited us, and what we wanted. And it will help us have a stronger, more peaceful connection with our kids!

1. Understand the meaning behind the behavior

2. Focusing on controlling ourselves rather than just focusing on the kids, because us as parents we can lose it in the heat of the moment, and might do something we regret.

3. Be consistent with your expectations

4. Give attention to the behavior you like not the behavior you don’t

5. Redirect (Exp. “A child acting up at the grocery store could be enlisted to help pick out oranges or rearrange the items in a grocery cart, or a kid running around a swimming pool might be challenged to walk “as if on marshmallows.”)

6. Exploit the energy drain (Ex. Cut that whining out, or stop fighting with your sibling because listening to that could cause me a big energy drain, and I don’t think I’ll have the energy to take you to the park after dinner.”

7. Don’t bribe!

At the end of the day I just want my kids to know that I love them and everything I do is for their well being and that I also have their best interest at heart. I never want them to feel or think anything less! Mommy’s always in your corner! 🙂

I Love My Family

cora-leeHi Everyone!! My name is Cora-Lee, I am 20 years old. My birthday is March 16, so I’m a Pisces!! I have a 7 month old daughter, and her name is Sophia. She is a huge blessing to me!

I’m married to my high school sweetheart we’ve been together since I was 15 years old, and got married march 18 and I was 18 years old! I  became pregnant with my daughter when I was 19 years old and it was such an exciting time! I was judged a lot for getting married and having a baby a year later, but it was the best decision I made because I love my family and wouldn’t trade them for the world! I’m currently in high school and attend an all girl school that allows me to bring my child, which is awesome.

I think it’s great I can share my experiences with young mothers that have similar or non-similar lives. As a young parent ambassador I’m here to lend out any support and help at any time!!!