Degree! Sooo close …. YET soooo FAR!

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Oh September! The sound of September means just one thing to me, and that is the beginning of school. Next Tuesday I will have embarked on the journey that is my third year at Bentley University. From now until then there are a lot of things I need to make sure are done, like DAYCARE and a 2nd BIRTHDAY. My little guy is now 1 year and 11 months, and in order for me to start school he needs to be in daycare. Some way I will extend my voucher if this state considers my 15 credit hours a semester enough for me to be granted the “privilege” to have it. Anyway, Elijah’s birthday conveniently falls on the third week of school when everything gets difficult. Around this time usually the midterms start to come around the corner and studying SHOULD begin, but since I need to plan a “small” birthday party (which is usually impossible to have a small birthday party with Dominicans) it will take some balance.Image

Aside from my motherly duties comes BOOKS! I’ve already purchased most of my books in eBook form (on my iPad) in order to save money, but still have two hefty priced books to buy. Every semester this is the part I DREAD. Buying books that I will use for three months and will never use again, and spend an arm and a leg for, when I can use that money for other things! It’s unbelievable.

This semImageester I have made it a point to average out with a 3.3 GPA, because in my mind this is a very decisive semester for me. I’m taking two courses that are required for my major (accounting), and if I don’t do well I risk not having my internship next summer. An internship that I loved, and really can’t afford to lose. In hopes to make this happen I have begun reading for my classes, and I have made it a point to become SUPER organized!

All in all, being a mom and a first semester junior in a business school just means one thing to me, BREATHE! I need to take some time to myself to just relax and think about NOTHING. With all that goes on I need to just take a step back sometimes because it is and will always be overwhelming, because while all of my classmates are moving into their dorms I am working, and figuring out a plan to have my son, and study and take him to his appointment, and celebrate birthdays, and spend quality time. Ultimately my son is the most important person in my life and if I don’t spend quality time raising him, and teaching him how to be a good man this sacrifice I’m making by going to school to make a better tomorrow for him will be completely worthless. May of 2014 needs to hurry up and get here!

Recap: Live Twitter Chat on Young Parents Who Want Change

Last night’s twitter chat participation was heavy, as always, and connections among parents were clear. As the weeks continue,  relationships are built and stories are shared getting us closer to our goal of making twitter chats a chance for young parents to connect and relate.

Through this twitter chat it was evident that young parents felt society’s expectation for them is failure, and anything better is promotion.

Below are some images from last night’s questions and responses.

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If you would like to read the entire conversation, please visit our twitter account or click here. Tweets are in reverse chronological order.

Thank you to all of our wonderful participants!

Live young parent chats are every Tuesday at 8 PM EST! #YPsupport

My Life: After Baby E <3

A life of diapers and books, of bottles and calculators, of toys and computers is what I have chosen. A choice that I made from the moment I saw two pink lines on what I’d like to call a pee stick. My journey since that day has been nothing short of difficult, but I would never trade it for anything in this world. My name is Elaine I am 19 years old, and I am a PROUD mother of a 19 month old.

I went to a private high school, and before I began my first day there I met the guy who eventually I’d call the father of my son. He and I began a relationship in my freshman year and continued “strong” for almost five years.

As I continued my high school career I anticipated the day I would go to college. I yearned for independence, freedom, and the ability to act upon any impulse I had. Something I was never, and still am not able to do under my parents roof. During the time when I was supposed to be receiving acceptance letters from colleges I received the most life changing news and to think it came in a box that costs $15. From the moment on everything has been different for me. I instantly became more mature, in the sense that everything I did then and still do now has one name and that is Elijah. Ironically enough a week later I got my acceptance letter from Bentley University(Where I am currently attending)

Instantly had overwhelming flow of questions: How am I going to college? How will I commute? Can I live on campus with the baby? Who’s going to take care of the baby? How am I going to study?

All I really knew at that point was that I was going to be a full time mom and a full time student some way some how.

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I currently work part time, and am pursuing an accounting degree while being a single mom. The most impacting thing to me about this whole process has been all that I have lost, that I wasn’t expecting. That “strong relationship that I thought would last a lifetime evidently had an expiration date. Through the birth of my son I realized he and I were on two co

mpletely different pages, and our priorities were completely different. This took a toll in our relationship and all I could think of was “If mommy isn’t happy baby isn’t happy”, and through this constant reminder a finally built the courage to end what I had worked on and built for an extended period of time. Despite yearning to give my son the perfect family to grow up with.

Despite what I have lost, I have gained a lot more. My son for one, and I gained an amazing relationship with my family. They have been more than helpful and love my son more than they love me, which I am truly thankful for. Lastly, my amazing friends who ensure I maintain my sanity in times of stress. My son has more aunties than me! This group of girls (who I will call [W]VICE) truly have made a difference in my life through being such a great support system. They do everything from taking care of Elijah to taking me out when I feel I’m at my breaking point. Although they don’t have babies, they are girls I can relate to and they have truly become my sisters. Just the fact that they deal with Elijah is enough proof of love to me.

My little handful is the light of my world! I thought I loved before he was born, but I had no idea what love was until I held him in my arms for the first time. I’m one of those moms that anything my son does makes me jump up and down with excitement and makes me feel like my son is a genius! To every mom their child is perfect, but I think MY SON is the most perfect of all babies. There’s no way for me to be unhappy around this child, and that’s the best part. When I have a bad day I can just come home and spend hours playing with him and it’s like nothing stressful ever happened. He is my motivation and for him I will conquer the world! I can’t imagine my life with out him.

It might sound cliche, but if I had the opportunity I would have waited (if and only if I could get Elijah Manuel Mendez, just how he is now). Not because I feel like I’m missing out on anything, but because I sometimes feel guilty that I can’t provide him with luxuries that I would have loved to give my children. In addition, if I would have waited I would have probably been able to give my son the family that I have dreamt of. I want to serve as a motivational tool for anyone I can make a difference for. In this society people like me, who come from nothing, and have babies young are deemed to fail, but I’m not going to. I REFUSE to let society dictate my life, and that is the message I want to convey to ALL young parents.