I Decided to be Healthier

To me being healthy means, to walk without running out of breath, eating a salad rather then a cheese burger, being able to play with your children, eating with out a belly ach, and most importantly being around long enough to enjoy all your child millstones. I am not going to say I am healthy at all. all these thing I just named, is exactly me. And why know I am trying to change my habits, so I can always be around for all of Xavier’s millstones,

Being healthy is just not eating your veggies and fruits and exercising everyday, there a lot more to that. Its being over all good on health. On oral health, yearly physicals, eye health, up to date on shots, and anything else to insure a happy healthy life.

I use to think only eating one cheese burger or slice of pizza instead of two was healthy. Or eating the lean cuisines for every mean was healthy. These might be slightly more healthier then eating 3 slices of pizza, but nevertheless it is still un healthy. Or I use to think if I wasn’t sick, in pain, or coughing, I was healthy. And I soon realized that after I tried to play with my son and couldn’t even keep up with him, or had to keep stopping every 5 seconds cause I was out of breath.

I am not overweight, but my body is just not healthy and not wanting to work like it should. So I recently made a change in my life, my son’s life, and my family’s life, to be a lot more healthier. We decided to have veggies twice a day instead of twice a month, to have fruit instead of chips, be up to date with all medical thing, and to be more active as a family. So we all could be around for each others millstones in life.

I Am More Than a Statistic

I am only 20 years old with only a high school diploma, I have nothing else special and no one will take me serious. 6 months ago that is really all I thought about myself. I felt like I was just another teen parent statistic. But over the course of 6 months I began to realize that I am something bigger, I have a purpose, and I am someone. I am and my story is a lot bigger than just and education and some fancy title, and that makes me the person and mother I am today!

I felt like because I was young, only had a high school education, received government assistance, and because I had my son at a young age that no one would ever take me serious, just as other statistic. Because in most of society’s  eyes being a teen parent is probably the worse imaginable thing they would think of. In their eyes I ruined my life, will be a welfare queen, and will forever be a statistic. A picture that society has painted, not teen parents. Growing up I was always told how having a kid young would ruin your life, you wont be able to finish school, go to college, find a good man, get a good job, and will forever live off the government. I was told this so much that I truly believed it, especially when I found out I was pregnant and had my son, I really thought my life was over. It began to take the motivation that I have always had, that I would do anything that I set my mind too. I slowly began falling behind in school and not going. I was depressed and felt domed

It took me a awhile to see my purpose, and to find my own way to help other young parents.  And working with the Young Parent Ambassador Program really help me find that out. I realized my story and my struggles are going to help others in my position,  or for others to understand some of our positions. I found this out all through blogging, public speaking, networking, interviews, group meetings, etc.

As a young parent ambassador, I feel like I was given the tools to tell my story in a way to help others.  And now I never want to stop telling my story. It might not be the best story legislators, providers, youth, peers, etc., but it’s my story! And it’s who I am!

How Do I Manage the Stress?

Mommy, Jasmin, advocate, ambassador, peer navigator, policy fellow, girlfriend, cook, healer of boo boos, driver, maid, and overall… a 20-year-old girl. These are only a few of the things I am every day. I know it sounds crazy and a lot to do in 24 hours, but somehow I have to make it all fit; and I still have yet to manage how to manage my time to make this all fit into one.

People ask me how do you do it; how do you manage to juggle all these things at your age and do a good job at it? My reply is simple I just do it, and I’m alive. Because to be completely honest, I don’t even know how I do it. Right now I just go with whatever is thrown at me at that time and deal with it; then take my breath later. This is extremely bad for me to do because all it does is make me stressed out and all over the place. But how do I make it all flow and still manage to be a normal 20-year-old girl?

I tried the scheduling and the planning ahead of time; but in the end I still find myself being stressed out and all over the place. It ultimately makes me feel like I’m not being as stress-free and there for my son and boyfriend. Whenever I am with my son, I’m either too stressed from all my work to function, or too tired to do anything. There has to be way to figure this all out, I know there is! I mean I see people all the time doing it every day, why can’t I just get in down packed already?

So I’m sitting here as mommy, Jasmin, advocate, ambassador, peer navigator, policy fellow, girlfriend, cook, healer of boo boos, driver, maid, a 20-year-old girl, and a fellow young parent… please help. I need help and advice to juggle my busy life and be the best mother I could possibly be; so an advice or tips would be very much appreciated!

 

Sincerely,

Over-worked

I am Amazing and I am a Mother

jasminMmhh where do I start? I mean… besides the fact that I’m totally amazing! Lol 🙂 But for real, I feel like I’m an amazing person for all I have accomplished in my life and all that I have put up with. I’m a high school graduate, class of 2012, I am employed, I’m a young parent advocate, and most importantly I am a mother to an amazing two year old lil boy named Xavier.

Notice how I put being a mother last. This is not because I am not proud, it is because motherhood is not the only thing that defines me. I am so proud of being Xavier’s mother and wouldn’t change it for the world, but I am more then just a mother and I strive everyday for that not to be my only title.

Becoming a mother has led me to many great and wonderful things, Xavier has really been my motivation.  As some people seeing having a child young as a life killer, I see my son as a life saver! Without my son I would not have been this amazing person that I am today, I would probably be still smoking weed everyday and not wanting to do anything for my life. So like I said before, I am amazing and that’s because I am a mother to a amazing lil boy named Xavier!

Jasmin is a participant of the Young Parent Ambassador Program at the Center for Community Health and Health Equity at Brigham and Women’s Hospital.

I Refuse to be Statistic!

“Congratulations  graduation class of 2012!”

Never did I think I would be able to hear those words, especially after having my son during sophomore year. But I did it,  I walked across that stage with my class and beat every odd! And let me tell you, it is the best feeling in the word saying “I am a teen mother and a highschool graduate!”

Right away when people see high school student pregnant or about to become a parent they think there goes their education, there goes their life, and there goes all the dreams the hoped for. Well I’m Here to prove that they are wrong, I am not a statistic and I REFUSE to be classified as one! I am a mother, I am a high school graduate, I am a daughter, and I am a strong woman reaching for my goals! No where in there is there space for a teen parent statistic!

You make your own choices in life, and yes you may mess up once in awhile, but you can never let that get you down! I allow my choices to lift me up in life, not bring me down!

Trying to Beat the Odds

Being a parent is definitely the hardest job you will ever have, and it’s even harder when you are trying to grow up yourself. Everyone always thinks once you have a kid at a young age your life just completely ends and that you just ruined your life. I’m here to say that for me, this is not true one bit.

My life began when I had my son, Xavier. What people don’t understand is my son’s birth motivated me to become who I am today. Before Xavier, I was not on track to graduate, I was always into trouble, and I didn’t care about anything or anyone. Now my son is 17 months old, I am graduating in less than 3 weeks, I have my own car, I have a job, I am going to college, and I have the life I always wanted. I can honestly say without my son in my life, I would not have any of this going for my life.

Is it hard? Yes, without a doubt! I cannot lie, I am stressed out and overwhelmed half the time. However, it is all worth it when I see the smile on my son’s face and knowing I am able to provide for him. I am determined to beat every odd and every statistic that comes with being a teen parent. And in the long run, my goal is not to prove it to other people that I can do it, but just show my son how much I would do for him and how important he is and always will be in my life!

A Teen, Student, Employee, Daughter, Mother!

My name is Jasmin Colon. I’m 18 years old and have a 16 month son named Xavier! I got pregnant with Xavier when I was 16 years old and had him when I was 17 years old. Xavier is my whole life, and I love him very much, but it is very hard trying to juggle being a mom, a teen, a student, a employee, a daughter, and still try to have a relationship with my boyfriend/baby’s father.

However hard it may be, it is not impossible. Every day I have to deal with the looks and the comments, that I’m sure every teen parent goes through. I’m asked daily if I’m still with my baby’s father, what my parents think, and how does it feel not being a teen anymore. Sometimes it doesn’t bother me that the ask because I understand people are curious, but I hate when people I really don’t know want to get in my personal life and judge me.

Yes, I am still with my baby’s father, but what does it matter. No, my parents weren’t happy, but what does it matter. I love being a mother even if I’m still a teen, but again what does it matter. People say all these negative thing about teen parents, but nevertheless we are still parents and are trying to do what is right for our children. There are parents in their 20s or 30s and are still acting like teens, that are not with their babies father, that live off the government, that go clubbing, and that don’t have a steady job, but people don’t make a big teen about them as they do to teen parents.

The way I see it is, it doesn’t matter how old you are as a parent, it matters how well you take on the responsibility. This is why I became an ambassador with the Stepps Boston program, to open people’s minds to realize that we are not a disease. Yes, we might have made a mistake in our lives, but we are human. I am proud to be a teen parent, and I wouldn’t have it any other way!