And Then I Remember…

There are days when hiding in my closet is an option

There are days when pulling out my hair is an option

There are days when I can scream ’til my voice is no more

And then I remember I have the strength of two lions

That I’m not the same person I used to be

That bald may not be the look for me

That my closet doesn’t have a light and I really don’t like the dark

That I like talking

There are days when running is an option

There are days when crying is an option

And then I remember I have enough babies for that so turning into one may not be the best idea

That I’ll get one hell of a work out running and I’m sure I’ll get chased

Point is when the negative comes creeping just remember I do. 🙂

A Mother’s Fight

I realize that you feed off my energy, my fight, my love and for that… I fight.

I realize that feeding you, bathing you, dressing you is only half the battle.

I will fight because better me = better you.

I was told never to use the saying “Do as I say not as I do,” because when you see me do or say something, you are bound to do the sooner or later. I can’t fight you for what I have taught you and since I know you’re watching, watch mommy put up a fight for you, watch how mommy loves you, teaches you, supports you, always forgives you, and never let you go.

As you watch, pay close attention to the words I use to help you to help us to fight and make sure you choose those fighting words wisely. Know that along with a fight comes sacrifice and for you I will always do that, no matter what. So as I pave the way, you may see mommy cry but just know they are tears of joy and when I look at you, know that it’s because you make me so happy.

This fight ain’t easy sweetie and boy did mommy have to start young, but guess what… we got through it.

I Am Not Just the Color of My Skin

Hey mom and dad, remember me? Your little girl. I am still your little girl, right?

Well, I’m still in school and my teachers, the students, and even the people I thought that was my friends say my race is why I became pregnant at the age I did.

People say my race is fast,  hard-headed, or even have no “home training” but I know you brought me up right. I mean, can’t this easily happen to anyone no matter what race? So why point fingers at me why pick me out the punch.

I’m 22 now and your grandchild is 5 years old. I’m doing great and I proven a lot of people wrong because many said I’m just a baby.

I wouldn’t want to anything that not only because I’m a young parent but my race are success rate is low

Well… I like where I am. I finished school, I have a great job, I own my own place and  my child is happy. Each day I am learning how to better myself for not just me but for my child and others the same race as me… to show them that what people say don’t matter and that it’s the choices you make in life that determines where you will go or be.

People should just stop with the stereotypes because I am not just the color of my skin nor do I want to be seen as the color of my skin, I am more than that and I have the right to be seen for me.

Just remember this: If you feed off the lies that people say, you will go hungry.

How to Stop Stressing

Some think that the end is just the end, but really it’s a start to a new beginning. Stress is a very common thing and boy does it have your mind going! And stressing over the little things is even worse. Stressing is waste of strength. I say don’t stress it, just use it to open a new door and when you start doing that you’ll see that you was stressing over was nothing. You can do anything or turn any situation around if you but your mind to it here’s a few tips to help you.

1) Try to think of whatever you’re stressing about as a positive.

2) Try to think of was to fix the problem or preventing it from happening again this way you know what to when or if this lil problem comes up again.

3) Write it out. Some people who stress tend to think a lot I feel the only way to get rid of it or to easy it is to write it out because as soon as you start writing you’ll forget you are and by the time you are done you probably have written a book LOL.

I hope I have helped you and maybe you will try some of these or come up with some of you own. I would love to hear how you choose to de-stress.

Hopes, Dreams, and Goals

Shaquanda

Hey, my name is Shaquanda and I am a proud parent. I live here in Boston and do a lil bit of everything. I am an artist, dancer, and a planner. I am 21 and my parents are from the south. I have two children, a boy and girl ages 3 and 2.

I had my first child at 17. Being a parent has it’s ups and downs but I made it this far and plan to continue. Being parent does not mean your hopes, dreams, or goals are gone. Those things make you a better you it made me a better me a happy me.

Shaquanda  is a participant of the Young Parent Ambassador Program at the Center for Community Health and Health Equity at Brigham and Women’s Hospital.